If you need tough love, I will give it to you. I am not helping you by lying to you or sugarcoating things. I will not be rude, but I will be honest. Life is too complicated to add deceit in the mix. Trust is earned, and if you lie to me then I cannot trust you.
So many people ask me about relationship advice. 9 times out of 10, their problems can be solved with communication, and by that I mean open communication which includes being honest. Just because you've done something or said something hurtful does not mean that the other person will not forgive you, but just because they forgive does not mean they'll forget.
I really can't stand it when a person keeps taking a boyfriend/girlfriend back time and time again, when they do the same thing over and over and over. Really?! And you wonder why you are miserable? Don't get me wrong I believe in second chances under certain circumstances but that person has to PROVE that they are willing to seriously work at changing and making things right. YES, THEY HAVE TO PROVE IT. They are the ones that did something wrong, not me.
I know many people in violent relationship, women married to alcoholics, men and women whose spouses are unfaithful, and they keep falling back into those same patterns. BUT, most of them knew that the person was like that BEFORE they entered into the relationship. SORRY, but you aren't going to magically change someone overnight.
Use your head & your heart. Everyone deserves love but relationships are not romance novels or Disney movies, they take work, sacrifice, honesty, and compromise.
Live, Laugh, and LOVE!
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i loved this post. thanks. something everyone needs to hear at one point or another i think. hope yall are doing well!
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. I think for some they are too scared to be alone to really break free from people that are bad for them. I hope whoever is frustrating you with this sees that they are only hurting themselves.
ReplyDeleteThis is mainly from an early relationship I had as a teenager. However I have had friends and family choose bad relationships over their children's best interest or their safety. It's frustrating to see people you care about continue to make mistake after mistake.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you, I have such a hard time when people in obviously rough situations that they put themselves into come up to me and want me to pity them....Honestly I just want to scream at them or say "DUH" after most of their sentences...Thanks for voicing the issue. :)
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